I don’t mean to cause a stir with the title of this article, but I just experienced what I would describe as a rather odd experience. I was talking to a friend the other day. He doesn’t know that my wife and I swing, and he openly talked about his disagreement to swinging. I can understand people not being able to get the big swinging picture, but saying “don’t they have better things to do?” and stating an obvious rejection to the entire community can sometimes be unacceptable.

If you are non-swingers thinking that swingers are freaks, here’s breaking news: we are not! We live the same life as non-swingers. We go to work, we pay our bills, we have to deal with gas prices going up and down like a rollercoaster, and we do live an ordinary daily life. Being a swinger does not mean a person abandon all his daily life and swing all the time. Plus, we do have great relationships. What most people can’t seem to understand is the fact that swinging is about love and uncompromised trust between two people involved in a relationship. It takes a lot of trust and love to be able to swing and enjoy great experiences. There are several couples I know try to swing even when one of them is not fully comfortable with the lifestyle; naturally, their relationships ended. This is exactly why swinging requires strong emotional bonds between two people involved in a relationship (or a marriage) to be able to work. You need to fully understand the benefits of swinging and be fully comfortable with the experience before you can actually gain a better relationship by swinging.

All and all, swingers are normal people indeed. It is only natural that pros and cons rise on the topic of swinging, and I’m sure in time they will understand what this lifestyle is all about.