Getting into the swinging lifestyle seems to be much easier as part of a couple. You always have a partner to go to swingers parties with, you can easily partner swap or invite someone along to join you for a threesome. No nerves about arriving alone or whether you'll fit in; with a partner at your side, you're half way there. Single women are often welcome at swingers nights to make up numbers, with many ladies wishing to experiment with each other (something the men love to watch). However, for single men, things aren't always so straight forward.
On the swinging scene, there are many parties and swingers clubs that don't allow single men to attend. Some parties are strictly invitation only, and others are open just to swinging couples and single ladies. There are many reasons for this; first of all, the dynamic doesn't work if there are more men than women, and if it's open to everyone this would inevitably be the case. Although girl on girl action is common, man on man is very rare and often frowned upon in straight swingers clubs as it could make some people uncomfortable. There are special nights and clubs available for bisexual swingers parties, which is where you should head if you're interested in swinging with another man.
Single men can also make women feel intimidated, even if it's not intentional; they can be viewed as predators. People are involved in the swingers lifestyle because they want to share their sexual experiences with like minded people, not just to put on a free porn show for the lone man standing in the corner. That's what internet porn is for! If you're a single man who just wants to get into the swinging scene so you can get laid, I'm afraid you've come to the wrong place; you will quickly be identified and are unlikely to be welcome at any swingers club or party if these are your motives. However, if you're genuinely interested in group sex and respect the etiquette that all good swingers adhere to, read on.
Single men are more than welcome to join swingers networking sites online. Be honest about what you're looking for, and see what offers present themselves to you. You might get the opportunity to meet a single girl who's looking for a friend she is sexually compatible with so that you can attend swingers parties together, or you might be invited along to a meet at someone's house if the numbers are right. There are some swingers clubs that hold special nights where single gents are allowed to attend; keep an eye out for these.
There will always be guys out there who think that they can bend the rules and cheat the system. Some hire escorts or prostitutes to come with them, posing as their wife or girlfriend. This is known as their 'ticket' to get into parties. It's quite easy to spot these; if the host rumbles you, you're likely to be asked to leave. Genuine couples arrive together and leave together, and you won't find the man running around seeing how many girls he can shag in one night. If you really want to adopt the swinging lifestyle without the ties of a relationship, find a like-minded girl online who you meet with and become friends with first, then once you're comfortable with each other you can start attending swingers parties together.
As a single man, you might feel a bit hard done by as all the odds are against you, but try to put yourself in a woman's shoes. Would you want to be surrounded by vultures when you're trying to relax and have fun? We doubt it! Just try to be patient, and respect the rules. If you behave like a gentleman, you will be accepted into the swinging community with open arms (and legs)!
