Advice for new swingers about the lifestyle

Swinging for Couples


Swinging is a couples game, and they tend to make up the majority of a swingers community. If you've got this far, you'll probably know what the basics of swinging involves; a love of sex that you share with other like-minded people, often involving partner swapping and sex with multiple partners. It's sometimes referred to as 'the lifestyle' or 'the scene', and is much less taboo today than it once was.


You probably heard about the practise from when it became publicly popular in the "swinging 60s", where many people practised free love. Since then, it developed a bit of a stigma, and most people assumed it was only older couples getting together at each other's houses to exchange partners. However, now adults of all ages, shapes and sizes are getting involved and absolutely loving what they find! You'll find mature swingers, bisexual swingers, BDSM swingers... there's something out there for everyone.


If you met your spouse or partner at a swingers club or party, it will already be apparent that you both share an interest in the swingers lifestyle and you'll be able to discuss it openly with each other to decide whether or not it's something you'd like to continue doing together. However, if you have enjoyed swinging for years but your new partner has never considered it, it could be a difficult topic to bring up. Always deal with this sensitively; just because you enjoy it, swinging is not to everyone's taste. You should never make your partner feel pressured to try it, or accuse them of holding you back. This will damage your relationship and cause tension between you. It's best to hint gently at first, finding out what they're comfortable with and what turns them on.


Everyone has some kind of sexual fantasy. Some are more extreme than others, and might range from bondage and domination to group sex. This is something that couples should discuss with each other before trying anything new to make sure you're both up for it. You should never do something you don't feel comfortable with just to please your partner; this may cause you to harbour some resentment towards them in the future.


If you're both new to swinging, this puts you on a level ground. Make sure you're trying it for the right reasons; it shouldn't be to mend the cracks in your relationship or because you no longer have any lust for each other and need to look elsewhere. Going to a swingers party is an opportunity to explore your fantasies together, to discover your sexual boundaries and to enjoy a new lease of life. Swinging couples should already have a strong relationship, which will be enhanced by indulging in the swingers scene together. Before going through with it, talk it over thoroughly and set yourself rules. Will you just watch at your first swingers party or get involved? Do you have a 'same room' policy where you must stay near each other during sexual activity? Will you feel any jealousy watching your partner having sex with someone else? These are all important things that should be considered. You should also to agree to stop at any time if either one of you starts to feel uncomfortable, regardless of how much fun you might be having.


Swinging couples are expected to arrive together and leave together when going to swingers parties. It's not the kind of environment where you separate as soon as you're through the door and go off to do your own thing; share the experience together and make sure your partner is having fun throughout.


Your first swinging experience is likely to be quite nerve racking, but just remember that everyone is there to have fun! Try to relax, and just do as much or as little as you feel like. You are in no way obliged to engage in any sexual activity, and nobody there is going to judge you. Swinging couples are lucky to have each other, so let go of your inhibitions and live out your fantasies!


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